COMM 130:
Interpersonal Communication
Name: Maria Rebecca E. “Becky” Santos
Who Am I? - Conflict Style Reflection
Part 1
Avoider 3
Accommodator 3
Collaborator 4
Competitor 5
2. Do your result(s) align with your personality profile, communication style, listening style and love style?
Please explain why or why not.
Let me first show you my top scores of the following assessments:
A. Personality Profile - Purple 33, Red 31 & Blue 30.
B. Communication Style - Analyzer 16, Relater 12 and Ruler 10.
C. Listening Style - People-Oriented 3 and Action, Content, & Time-Oriented each scored 2.
D. Love Style - Storge 2 & Pragma, Agape, & Ludus each scored 1.
E. Conflict Style - Competitor 5, Collaborator 4, Accommodator & Avoider each scored 3.
Looking at my aforementioned scores, I believe the results of my conflict style assessment, supports my personality profile, communication style, listening style and love style.
According to Dawn Billings' article published on
January 3, 2015, entitled "Your Personality Leadership Strengths",
"People who find themselves more heavily weighted on the Red/Purple/Blue side of the color wheel have a tendency to place a great deal of value on strong individual contribution".
"People who find themselves more heavily weighted on the Red/Purple/Blue side of the color wheel have a tendency to place a great deal of value on strong individual contribution".
From the color wheel, you can see following values of my primary color as well as the two secondary colors:
A. Purple - value is execution, organization and ability to manage effectively;
B. Red - value is taking charge, competing and winning;
C. Blue - value is the ability to see and solve problems.
So you can see that the blending of my personality profile colors supports and is aligned with my communication, listening, love and conflict styles.
3. Examining the list below, what factors in your life may have had an impact on your conflict style? Please explain.
Some of the factors in my life that may have had an impact on my conflict style are the following:
A. Education - the education I earned from grammar school to college from St. Theresa's College in the Philippines formulated my backbone to do my best in whatever undertaking I decide to commit myself to. I admit I have not done my best all the time, and my excuse is that I am only human, and so I am not perfect.
B. Age/Skills/Career/Profession - as I grow older, I continue to learn so that I can develop myself so that I can give myself, my family, friends and the people I encounter in my social and professional life, the best that I can be. And again, I have to say my disclaimer, that I have not done my best all the time, and my excuse is that I am only human, and so I am not perfect.
Part 2
1. Who completed the Conflict Style comparison assessment and what relationship do they have to you?
Carlos, my husband completed the Conflict Style Assessment. We got married on May 31, 1974, and so being together for more than 43 years makes him the best person to complete this assessment.
2. What result(s) did he get?
Avoider 2
Accommodator 0
Collaborator 2
Competitor 5
3. How was it similar or different from your original results?
The highest score of 5 as a competitor is exactly the same on my original result and the score my husband gave me.
Being a collaborator was my second highest score, but my husband placed me as being as a collaborator and avoider, with the same low score of 2 as my secondary style.
The highest score of 5 as a competitor is exactly the same on my original result and the score my husband gave me.
Being a collaborator was my second highest score, but my husband placed me as being as a collaborator and avoider, with the same low score of 2 as my secondary style.
4. Does their result surprise you? Please explain why or why not?
At first, I felt insulted that he thinks I am an avoider. However, after reviewing his assessment, I saw that the two sentences that gave me the score of 2 as an avoider was not so bad. The two avoider sentences are the following:
A. (10) I stall in order to take some time to think about problems before approaching them. (Well, there are times that I do that, and I also marked that on my assessment).
B. (13) At times I keep my views to myself in order to avoid conflict. (Hmmm, yes there are times that I do that as well, and yes I also marked that on my assessment).
So alas, you can say that we did get the same results, with just the numbers being different. My husband does know me!
At first, I felt insulted that he thinks I am an avoider. However, after reviewing his assessment, I saw that the two sentences that gave me the score of 2 as an avoider was not so bad. The two avoider sentences are the following:
A. (10) I stall in order to take some time to think about problems before approaching them. (Well, there are times that I do that, and I also marked that on my assessment).
B. (13) At times I keep my views to myself in order to avoid conflict. (Hmmm, yes there are times that I do that as well, and yes I also marked that on my assessment).
So alas, you can say that we did get the same results, with just the numbers being different. My husband does know me!
5. In the end, what do you think the Conflict Style Assessment tells you about how
perceptions shape communication, identity, power and conflict management?
The conflict style assessment tells me that perception plays an important role in interpersonal communication. We live in a very diverse community i.e., gender, culture, religion, ethnicity, and so we should first think before we talk or act. The way we understand or interpret an issue may differ from the way the other person sees it. The illustration below shows us how we can improve ourself and be compromising so that we can "find the middle ground".
The conflict style assessment tells me that perception plays an important role in interpersonal communication. We live in a very diverse community i.e., gender, culture, religion, ethnicity, and so we should first think before we talk or act. The way we understand or interpret an issue may differ from the way the other person sees it. The illustration below shows us how we can improve ourself and be compromising so that we can "find the middle ground".
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